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Monthly Archives: April 2009

A Quiet Mind in a Busy World

quiet-mindOur mind can hold a lot of different thoughts in a day. In fact, these ‘noisy thoughts’ are what keep us busy day in and day out. We are driven by our thoughts and often they seem too big, too heavy for comfort.

Whatever we have today, pleasant or not, is the end result of previous actions triggered by the thoughts we entertain in our mind. Often, our thoughts even color certain circumstances. A bad fix gets even worse if we think quite negatively about it. So when we think of our lives being messy, if we focus on that, it’ll probably get messier.

It’s all in the mind, they say. But it’s not just a test of your outlook on life: of the bottle being half empty or half full. Whether you like it or not, your thoughts, including your insecurities and fears, attract more of the same, until they rule your life.

And let’s face it: we can’t keep happy thoughts for long. It’s a rare gift to be able keep thinking pleasant thoughts for long in this harried world, with mass media bombarding us with unpleasant images and texts. Indeed, if we were gifted enough to exclusively think happy thoughts despite the negativity, we’d all be flying to Never Land, wouldn’t we?

Thus, in this day and age, quietude has become a personal treasure we should nurture. Quiet thoughts – neither happy nor sad – in this noisy world may seem like a ripple-less area in the middle of a choppy sea, but they’re not impossible to achieve.

Let’s do this: lie comfortably in a quiet place for one minute. Let’s not think about work or family; about what we have or have not; about what should have, could have and would have; not even about the best days of our lives because they’ll just make us feel sad that they’re difficult to have again.

If nature provides the best cures for physical ailments, it works even better at clearing up our cluttered thoughts. Think of a rainbow trout in a clear stream, a golden field of barley combed by the breeze, a butterfly on a dewy bloom, the Sun mellowed by light clouds, white sand and turquoise shallows in the tropics.

Let your mind find a good retreat from the busy world. Nature offers countless quiet images to unburden the mind. They’re beautiful, unobtrusive, and demand nothing from us, except that we let them be.

The closest thing to any thought about nature that works just as well, is perhaps the image of a calm face in a busy crowd. Let that be your face, even just for a minute.

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Remembering To Take Time

Enjoy a Break

Enjoy a Break

We’ve gotten so used to the rat race that we think stopping awhile means losing opportunities. Everyone is rushing without letup, aiming for one thing and then the next, setting no ceiling for contentment.

Time passes by so quickly, as though digital timekeeping has sped up the Earth’s rotation. Our routine is set at exact times. Things get done like clockwork. And we are slaves to our routine, from the moment we wake up to the time we close our eyes.

There’s nothing natural about our daily grind. It’s a monotony that’s quite out of sync with the beauty that surrounds us but which we ignore. We’re simply doing things for reasons that appeal to the vanity of our species. Maybe it’s time to reconnect with the childhood joys you’ve forgotten.

You don’t have to leave everything behind, of course. Take it easy and gradually reinvent your way of seeing things. You need to focus on the little details that bring out the whole picture, like examining each amazing fractal in the Julia Set, each constellation in the night sky, or, closer to home, each dear photograph in the album you’ve kept.

Focus is what we all need, but it doesn’t always have to do with work. Giving yourself a little time in the middle of a busy day won’t hurt. It revitalizes your senses, in fact. A one-minute introspective focus on the beauty of your surrounding at lunch break may change the way you appreciate life in the long run.

It can be your one minute of simplification, of self-discovery through the appreciation of little things around you: the way the flowers are arranged, the combination of their colors; how light is reflected by the leaves of grass and trees and the river; the flutter of pigeons at the park; someone whistling a happy tune; an old couple holding hands.

Let it be an unhurried, un-harried, unspoiled one-minute habit of seeing things in a blissful light. It’s a treat not just for your senses but the soul as well. And through it you may understand yourself better.

It’s a good start to realize that life can be even more beautiful if we could spend some time to enjoy it. Not the high life but a simple one, which carries no price tag, as the best things in life, a poet declared, can’t be had with a swipe of your plastic.

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Stop And Smell The Roses

Smell The Roses For 1 Minute

Smell The Roses For 1 Minute

The demands of life are getting more complicated. We talk of advancement in the way things are done, but what it really means is that the pace of everything keeps getting faster. We do things quickly so we can do more things.

It’s not really society that progresses but technology. We are now more concerned about getting things done for our jobs or careers and there are high-tech tools to do the task well. We think little of what nurtures humanity, of the simple pleasures life used to afford us.

We rush daily, from the simple household chores to our tasks in the workplace. It’s good to make use of time for productivity’s sake, but when it means your personal failure in the end, that’s another story.

Everything goes by in a blur if you rush and that’s tragic if you consider life, as philosophers do, as a journey from cradle to grave. You need to relax and let your mind see things clearly.

We all love to know the purpose of our existence, but you don’t have to read tomes or follow mystics and gurus to think about yours. Simply identify important things or parts of your life that you can’t live without. And you can only do that if you slow down a little.

What color are your neighbor’s eyes for instance. You might have noticed they’re blue, but how blue? Or do you still see amazing shapes of clouds in the sky the way you used to when you were a kid? Is the cottony elephant still up there?

Important things are relevant, but not all relevant things can be a reason for happiness. Knowing the essence of our existence doesn’t always happen. Sometimes, it will take time before we could realize that our happiness is found among simple things around us.

So take a minute off to stop and smell the roses. Life is essentially not about your paperwork; it’s about nature. Take time to smell the fragrance of nature and capture its magnificent beauty without worrying about the next step. Sneak into a garden and stay awhile. Or just feel the warmth of the sun on your face.

To live a happy life, you have to zoom in and see, nay, feel the smaller, clearer picture. The grass that grows out of a crack on the pavement, the breeze that rustles the leaves of trees, the bird that blunders into your living room – they stand for all the simple things that make life more breathable.

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1 Minute Stress Buster

One Minute Retreat

One Minute Retreat

Did you know, stress causes you to age faster?

You may not know it but it even adds up to that tummy bulge we often call “middle aged spread.” Blame it on leptin, the protein that’s depleted when you’re always beating deadlines and chasing after the subway train every day but, it’s the same protein that knocks off your appetite control, causing you to eat when you really didin’t want to or don’t need to.

Stress can lead to so many conditions and illnesses which is the reason it’s important to fight it off, and it doesn’t necessarily have to with long sessions in the gym or a two week vacation, though these things really do help! The problem is though, when you’re stressed, trying to add an exercise routine of 3 times per week or taking a vacation can actually induce more stress particularly when you’re struggling to find the time to fit these things in.

What I have discovered however is that taking short and consistent “time-out” sessions add up and really are great ways to refire your energy, clear your mind and prepare you for the task, or day ahead.

Just taking a short break to have a cup of cappuccino or treating yourself to a bouquet of white roses from the nearby flower shop can be enough to put your mind at ease and create a positive distraction from your current activities to enjoy some “me-time” or give you enough time to stop blowing off steam.

There are a number of little activities you can embark on when it comes to busting stress and, these are the things that you can do whether you’re sat on your sofa or at your hard mahogany office table. You’d be amazed at how relaxing it is just tapping your fingers on your desk while looking away at the office window and watching the world go by.

Maybe there are activities going on outside your office window that you’ve been too busy to notice before like, the new business complex they’re building across the highway and suddenly, it becomes interesting watching the heavy machinery transport large volumes of dirt from one side of the complex to the other or, watching with fascination, how they lower that steel girder that will support part of the new building.

This may sound a little too simple but taken into a psychological context, stress is caused by doing much more than what one can normally handle, whether emotionally, psychologically, or physically. Breaking away from the situation that is causing the stress is the best way to avoid getting more stressed.

So, if you’re reading this from your office, take look out the window and in less than a minute you will find something that diverts your attention. It could be a funny-looking outfit worn by an office executive or a poodle who tiptoes beside his owner wearing a polka-dot dress.

If you have the chance, what would be even more beneficial would be for you to open your office window, and feel the fresh breeze on your face. This has superb cooling effect, especially if you just came out from a boiler-room meeting!

Try doing this as you tap your fingers on your desk. It could be a good way of rechanneling your energy, positive or otherwise into an inanimate object. You’ll find yourself drowned out by the tapping sound, making your mind wander to far-flung places and happy thoughts.

So whatever it may be that bothers you, tap your fingers, look out the window, and enjoy it!

Dr Cynthia

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