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Tag Archives: Retirement planning

Consider the slant on what you read

In case you missed it, there was an interesting article in the February 16, 2010 issue of U.S. News & World Report by Emily Brandon, entitled “10 Ways Baby Boomers will Reinvent Retirement.” It is a good article, and I hope you will read it, as well as some of the related articles to which the article includes internal links. There are some helpful insights and references to how we will cope with our very different needs.

This article is largely focused on the ways the Baby Boomer generation will “Re-invent retirement.” In most cases, we will have no choice but to re-invent retirement in the ways noted. These re-inventions of retirement all have more to do with how boomers will adapt to a different environment than that into which our parents retired. So necessity will be the mother of most of these reinventions, such as having no pension plans, needing to manage our money and investments, coping with being the “sandwich generation,” receiving less in social security support, and being in debt when we retire.

While these “re-inventions” will certainly be facts of life for Baby Boomers as we grow older, I think the tone of the article fails to recognize some very important characteristics of this generation.

First, boomers are the wealthiest generation in history.

Second, receiving less money from social security depends upon the age at retirement. If we work until age 70 or 72 (which the vast majority of us say we plan to do), we will receive more money.

Third, needing to work two extra years to recover what our retirement accounts lost in the recent economic crisis is, again, not a problem, because we don’t want to stop working at age 65.

Finally, the Boomer generation is not just defined by our financial situation. We will respond to the necessities we are faced with, and we will respond in ways that are both effective and that make us happy.

Boomers are a generation that has been learning how to respond when life hands us lemons. We have learned how to make spectacular lemonade!

I would like to hear from you. Tell me what you think.

Are you sitting in a chair with a handful or lemons? Or are you making lemonade?

If you are making lemonade, what recipe are you using?

“It’s time to start living the life you’ve imagined.” — Henry James

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Three more keys to building confidence

If you have implemented the first three keys to building confidence, you should be moving along the way to living more fully in the present and not allowing past mistakes and the negative messages of others to undermine your confidence. Now it is time to change your thinking from a focus on failure to a focus on success.

Don’t allow yourself to be or become one of the millions of people who always see the negatives. Everyone has flaws, the world is not perfect and everyone makes mistakes and experiences failures. Instead, look for the best in others, align yourself with the positive things happening in the world around you, and look for what you and others do successfully. Become a success-oriented person.

Try the next three steps:

4. Make a list of your successes. Get others to help you make the list. It will be fun and uplifting for you. Those who help you with the list will feel better about themselves, too.

5. Practice looking for the positive and the success in every person and every action or activity. You will still recognize failure and flaws, but you will also learn to look for the positives even there.

6. Reward yourself every time you succeed. It is fine to match the reward to the success and celebrate bigger successes in bigger ways.

Share your list of successes here.

“Your success and happiness lie in you. . . . Resolve to keep happy, and your joy and you shall form an invincible host against difficulties.”
– Helen Keller

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Three keys to building confidence

A focus on accomplishing your goals and fulfilling your dreams is essential to success. We all know that; but that focus is difficult for many of us to maintain. There are often voices in our memories or in our lives telling us we cannot succeed, calling us failures, or undermining our self confidence in other ways.

Here are the first three key steps to moving beyond the paralysis of memory and demoralizing messages:

1. Remember that everyone has experienced failure at some time in her or his life. Failure feels bad at the time, but it can be a very positive experience for the rest of your life. If you are constantly reviewing your failures, stop and think about what you learned from each failure and how it made you a better person.

2. Once you have extracted the positive from each failure forget it. Whether you can simply tell your mind to stop reminding you or you need to do something like writing down each failure on a small piece of paper, putting it in a box, and burying it or taking it to the dump, get rid of it.

3. If someone in your life is constantly throwing your failures in your face, have a talk with that person. Explain that this behavior is hurtful and that you will not tolerate it in the future. If necessary, create a penalty system you use every time that person brings up a past failure. This will help the person recognize and correct the behavior.

Please check back next week for the next steps. Share how you handle defeating thoughts here.

“The first rule is to keep an untroubled spirit. The second is to look things in the face and know them for what they are.”
– Marcus Aurelius

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Pamela Vaull Starr on Dreams

dreams“Reach high, for stars lie hidden in your soul. Dream deep, for every dream precedes the goal.”
– Pamela Vaull Starr

Whether you call them dreams, goals, aspirations or something else, make them big; make them profound; make them worth your best effort. Let them draw you out of your past, away from your fears, and beyond any failures of the past.

Allow your dreams to become big enough to define your goals for every year and even for every day of the rest of your life. Establish for your life a roadmap to your dream, mapping daily steps to accomplishment of the whole. Then pursue the goal of each day with all your heart and all your joy.

Moving ever closer to your dream will warm your heart, will embrace the support and the involvement of others, and will light a fire that will inspire those around you to share both the trials of the journey and the celebration of success.

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Epictetus asks “What would you be?”

EpictetiAtTable“First, say to yourself what you would be; and then do what you have to do.”
 – Epictetus, Discourses

Who do your dreams call you to become? How will fulfilling your dreams transform you? If fulfilling a dream will not make you better or stronger is it worth pursuing?

I am convinced that as we reach the second phase of our lives and we are given the gift of a chance to pursue our dreams, we owe it to ourselves to pursue only worthy dreams. The others are probably best left in the memory of the years of our immaturity.

The dreams that remain, the dreams that draw us forward, should be worthy of the experience, the wisdom and the skill acquired over half a lifetime. Worthy dreams demand of us new growth and new passion for life. When you have discovered that dream hiding somewhere deep in your soul, it will demand all that you have to give and in return it will give you a more fulfilling and happy life.

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Eleanor Roosevelt on Dreams

eleanor_roosevelt2“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”
– Eleanor Roosevelt

Throughout our lives we dream of a future we would like to design. From childhood dreams of a world filled with lollipops and cotton candy, available to us every moment, our dreams change to what life would be “if only.”  In time, our dreams mature apace with our lives and we dream of a future more beautiful, more compelling and more perfect than the reality of life at the moment.

The true beauty of a dream is its power to transform the present into a future that is better in some meaningful way. A dream might promise something better only for the dreamer or it might aspire to something greater for society. Often what begins as the former will find fulfillment as the latter.

One of the most magical things about dreams pursued is the power of the pursuit to transform the dream itself and make it something more worthy of pursuit and more beautiful to all who are touched by its achievement.

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Victor Hugo on Dreams

Victor_Hugo“There is nothing like a dream to create the future.”
– Victor Hugo

Human history glows with the truth of Hugo’s words. Human civilization has progressed through every age because courageous people dared to dream a better future and then dared to make it true. If you doubt it, pick up any novel by Victor Hugo and read the beautiful and transformative stories of those who dreamed and whose dreams shaped the future.

It makes no difference how big a dream might be. Every dream has the power to evoke our greatest strength, our most compelling determination, and our most luminous success. Only those who dream will ever know how big the dream or what effort was required to make it real. But a dream fulfilled will stand alone as a measure of achievement and, hopefully, as a measure of lives improved.

No matter how expansive or how personal you believe your dream to be, it is the sharing of it and the achievement of it that will reveal its true power to create a better future.

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